Comments on: Cultural Differences in Parenting http://www.mamasworldwide.com/2009/04/06/cultural-differences-in-parenting/ Bringing together parents from around the world Tue, 19 Jul 2011 04:59:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Fishman http://www.mamasworldwide.com/2009/04/06/cultural-differences-in-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-6921 Fishman Fri, 04 Dec 2009 19:46:14 +0000 http://www.mamasworldwide.com/?p=496#comment-6921 There are some <a href="http://www.empoweringparents.com/Parenting-Differences-How-Your-Child-May-Be-Using-it-Against-You.php" rel="nofollow">differences in parenting</a> if one parent doesn't think the other parent is trying hard enough to take on more duties around the house, it affects the family globally. I’ve found that most parents aren’t able to simply be frustrated with their partner in one area and remain on common ground in other areas unless they consciously work on it. In the same way, once you start working on things together—once you choose that “one thing” that you will start doing the same way—it brings you together as a couple, and presents a united front to your children. There are some differences in parenting if one parent doesn’t think the other parent is trying hard enough to take on more duties around the house, it affects the family globally. I’ve found that most parents aren’t able to simply be frustrated with their partner in one area and remain on common ground in other areas unless they consciously work on it. In the same way, once you start working on things together—once you choose that “one thing” that you will start doing the same way—it brings you together as a couple, and presents a united front to your children.

]]> By: Luna@Baby Monitor Wireless Camera http://www.mamasworldwide.com/2009/04/06/cultural-differences-in-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-5132 Luna@Baby Monitor Wireless Camera Tue, 08 Sep 2009 03:19:37 +0000 http://www.mamasworldwide.com/?p=496#comment-5132 The traditions maybe different the ways varied but the love of parenting is all the same no matter where you are in this world. The traditions maybe different the ways varied but the love of parenting is all the same no matter where you are in this world.

]]> By: The SAH vs. working parent debate — Mamas Worldwide http://www.mamasworldwide.com/2009/04/06/cultural-differences-in-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-2019 The SAH vs. working parent debate — Mamas Worldwide Sun, 10 May 2009 07:16:42 +0000 http://www.mamasworldwide.com/?p=496#comment-2019 [...] the “bad choices” I thought they were making.  With time though, and after reading Our Babies, Ourselves: How Biology and Culture Shape The Way We Parent, I’ve fully accepted that there are as many ways to raise children as there are parents, and [...] […] the “bad choices” I thought they were making.  With time though, and after reading Our Babies, Ourselves: How Biology and Culture Shape The Way We Parent, I’ve fully accepted that there are as many ways to raise children as there are parents, and […]

]]> By: What is attachment parenting http://www.mamasworldwide.com/2009/04/06/cultural-differences-in-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-1939 What is attachment parenting Tue, 05 May 2009 11:28:41 +0000 http://www.mamasworldwide.com/?p=496#comment-1939 [...] Cultural Differences in Parenting — Mamas Worldwide [...] […] Cultural Differences in Parenting — Mamas Worldwide […]

]]> By: Maria S. http://www.mamasworldwide.com/2009/04/06/cultural-differences-in-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-1534 Maria S. Sun, 19 Apr 2009 10:48:39 +0000 http://www.mamasworldwide.com/?p=496#comment-1534 Interesting post! It made me think back of the time when we (German with an U.S. American husband) had our first child in Japan. I carried him on the front, the Japanese carry theirs on the back. My husband insisted on our baby son to sleep only in his crib, I would have cuddled with him at night. We all have so many different needs and expectations as parents... I see Asian toddlers and kindergartners attending Asian cram school in Germany in the name of "tough love". I would not do that, but I learned to accept the difference. We do not always have to understand. Interesting post! It made me think back of the time when we (German with an U.S. American husband) had our first child in Japan. I carried him on the front, the Japanese carry theirs on the back. My husband insisted on our baby son to sleep only in his crib, I would have cuddled with him at night. We all have so many different needs and expectations as parents… I see Asian toddlers and kindergartners attending Asian cram school in Germany in the name of “tough love”. I would not do that, but I learned to accept the difference. We do not always have to understand.

]]> By: Kate http://www.mamasworldwide.com/2009/04/06/cultural-differences-in-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-1419 Kate Wed, 15 Apr 2009 13:09:10 +0000 http://www.mamasworldwide.com/?p=496#comment-1419 This is fascinating. Thanks so much for this. I am Filipino-Chinese, married to an American. We spent our first years of marriage in East Africa but just moved back to the US. I read a lot of (Western) parenting books while pregnant that emphasized the need to put a baby on a schedule, sleep in her own crib, etc. and felt quite a bit of guilt and a sense of failure when I found myself naturally inclined to keeping my daughter with me, breastfeeding on demand, and yes, co-sleeping. It wasn't until I recalled the rural East African practice of mothers toting babies on their backs and thus attending to a child's needs as they went along their day (not to mention the fact that whole families sleep together) that I realized that parenting styles ARE cultural and thus, there isn't just one "right" way. (Obviously, this may not work the same way in the US, but it still represents a different and very legitimate mindset.) I was further able to see that it is natural for me, a child raised in Asia, to have a different "innate" parenting style than my American husband and friends. All of that to say, so many of these ideas have been rattling around in my head since we've had our daughter and I'm going to try to find a copy of this book ASAP. Thanks again. This is fascinating. Thanks so much for this. I am Filipino-Chinese, married to an American. We spent our first years of marriage in East Africa but just moved back to the US.
I read a lot of (Western) parenting books while pregnant that emphasized the need to put a baby on a schedule, sleep in her own crib, etc. and felt quite a bit of guilt and a sense of failure when I found myself naturally inclined to keeping my daughter with me, breastfeeding on demand, and yes, co-sleeping. It wasn’t until I recalled the rural East African practice of mothers toting babies on their backs and thus attending to a child’s needs as they went along their day (not to mention the fact that whole families sleep together) that I realized that parenting styles ARE cultural and thus, there isn’t just one “right” way. (Obviously, this may not work the same way in the US, but it still represents a different and very legitimate mindset.) I was further able to see that it is natural for me, a child raised in Asia, to have a different “innate” parenting style than my American husband and friends.
All of that to say, so many of these ideas have been rattling around in my head since we’ve had our daughter and I’m going to try to find a copy of this book ASAP. Thanks again.

]]> By: marina k. villatoro http://www.mamasworldwide.com/2009/04/06/cultural-differences-in-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-1355 marina k. villatoro Mon, 13 Apr 2009 18:05:35 +0000 http://www.mamasworldwide.com/?p=496#comment-1355 what a great blog. so glad to find you. i'm a russian jew who immigrated to US with my parents at a young age. growing up in a semi-traditional russian jewish home, and managing to break all the rules. one was to take of for an unknown period of time to travel! that's how i met my guatemalan husband, in guatemala. we married and moved to costa rica where my little boy was born. he is a costa rican and US citizen, speaks three languages and is completely mixed blood. i have the best of all worlds to take from. and it's sooooo interesting the difference in raising kids from russian stand points, to latin to United States! <a href="http://travelexperta.com/" rel="nofollow">The Travel Expert(a) and an Expat with a Twist</a> what a great blog. so glad to find you. i’m a russian jew who immigrated to US with my parents at a young age. growing up in a semi-traditional russian jewish home, and managing to break all the rules. one was to take of for an unknown period of time to travel! that’s how i met my guatemalan husband, in guatemala. we married and moved to costa rica where my little boy was born. he is a costa rican and US citizen, speaks three languages and is completely mixed blood. i have the best of all worlds to take from. and it’s sooooo interesting the difference in raising kids from russian stand points, to latin to United States!
The Travel Expert(a) and an Expat with a Twist

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]]> By: Tammy http://www.mamasworldwide.com/2009/04/06/cultural-differences-in-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-1200 Tammy Thu, 09 Apr 2009 05:04:07 +0000 http://www.mamasworldwide.com/?p=496#comment-1200 It does sound interesting. Having recently visited a lot of non-American friends living in the US, it was really interesting to see the variations in parenting styles! I really don't like labels with parenting styles. I feel like I can only read up a bit, talk with other parents, and then do my best to meet the needs of my child as I see them. I just try to keep my mind clear so I can actually see her needs and not just project my own issues onto her instead. It does sound interesting. Having recently visited a lot of non-American friends living in the US, it was really interesting to see the variations in parenting styles!

I really don’t like labels with parenting styles. I feel like I can only read up a bit, talk with other parents, and then do my best to meet the needs of my child as I see them. I just try to keep my mind clear so I can actually see her needs and not just project my own issues onto her instead.

]]> By: Christina G http://www.mamasworldwide.com/2009/04/06/cultural-differences-in-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-1187 Christina G Wed, 08 Apr 2009 19:39:10 +0000 http://www.mamasworldwide.com/?p=496#comment-1187 @alice: Thank you! I think it's especially interesting for expats because of the section on immigrants taking their parenting styles with them. I think all expat parents have experienced cultural differences in parenting first hand. But I think this section is also good for non-expats/immigrants, because it's a reminder to be tolerant of immigrant parenting styles and recognize that different doesn't mean inferior. @alice: Thank you! I think it’s especially interesting for expats because of the section on immigrants taking their parenting styles with them. I think all expat parents have experienced cultural differences in parenting first hand. But I think this section is also good for non-expats/immigrants, because it’s a reminder to be tolerant of immigrant parenting styles and recognize that different doesn’t mean inferior.

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